I think that Grammom (Ryan's mother) is feeling like she's getting the shaft. Check out the email she sent to me today:
So, when Julia was in preschool and I showed up unexpectedly at her school and stopped to watch her on the playground, she wouldn’t even talk to me but went to the aide and pointed at me saying, “That looks like the one that goes with PaPa”. Now, Julia is 7 instead of 4 but let me tell you what happened today. I went to Boyd and observed in Jacob’s kindergarten class. We read a book together and when I left his friends asked him who I was. His teacher told me that he said, “Oh, that’s Grandmom-the one that lives in PaPa’s house.”
My kids adore their grandparents...each one of them. But I think that just as we sort of lose our identity once we are married...so do grandparents. The Papa always goes with Grammom. Joycelyn goes with Randy. I go with Ryan.
So here's the question I'm posing to Grammom: If the kids visit Papa at work (or if he were to visit them at school) do you think they would see him and say "I know you! You're the one that goes with Grammom!" :)